You look down the bar and see a couple who you just know are lifestyle… how do you pick up strangers at the bar!

Join us in this episode as we talk about the in’s and out’s of talking to people outside of the lifestyle club to see if they are open minded. We also dive into the beginning phase of developing our 10th anniversary celebration and a documentary project we have been invited into being a part of.

As always we love to hear from you and to learn about your experiences so please leave us feedback here or reach out to us on ITL –

Lifestyle Hygge – yes it’s a thing and you will love it!

Hygge (/ˈhjuːɡə/ HEW-gə or /ˈhuːɡə/ HOO-gə) is a Norwegian and Danish word for a mood of coziness and comfortable conviviality with feelings of wellness and contentment.

Cindy LOVES this concept so we thought we would bring it to the podcast in the hopes that it will become part of your lifestyle as well. Hygge is all things comfort and sensory, which to us IS what the lifestyle is all about. From scents, to textures and onto warmth and sounds; if it makes you feel comfortable it’s Hygge!

We can imagine this would be an amazing concept to develop a themed swingers party around (hint, hint) – and one that will be a hit with all of your swinger lifestyle friends!

Join us as we chat about Hygge, and as always reach out to use via the comment box on this website, on or via mainstream social media to tell us about your Hygge experience!


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There is an Art to saying No and one for receiving one.

After recent conversations with members of the Into The Lifestyle community we want to talk about what giving a No can look like, and how receiving one can land in a good way. When was the last time someone told you no, and left you feeling great about the ending of whatever it was that brought them to that decision? We feel that with a little practice, every No can be a positive one… so let’s explore how!

Join us in the chat and feel free to share your thoughts or comments below or via one of the many channels we have available to connect with us.


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Knowing where you are at and checking in with your partner is essential in the lifestyle.

Join us as we dig into how you might be able to check in today to see if you are showing up at the right parties or events… and all of our other random thoughts like we tend to do!

Also a BIG shout out to our USA based listeners for helping us climb into the #3 sexuality podcast in iTunes!

We would LOVE to hear from you so please feel free to leave a comment here, reach out to us in IntoTheLifestyle or on any of the other platforms that we are on.


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When you have something occur in or around the lifestyle it can be easy to look at it and ask is it a Story or Me Too? Quite often the way we process and perceive an encounter or situation both in and out of the lifestyle can be filtered through all of our life experiences so it can be hard to see what truly happened.

Join Cindy as she wades into this topic based on her own experiences and what she has seen while working with thousands of clients in her coaching business as they work through their own stories of experiences. Also be sure to join in on the ongoing conversation and growth on

Having someone pass judgement in the Lifestyle can hurt even when it is from a place of not knowing all the facts.

We recently experienced this from a group that we did not expect it from so join us as we process live what the feeling was like, how it is something that we see that we deal with all the time and what we are doing about it.

Most likely if you are in the lifestyle you have a fear of judgement or you have experienced it so this is an important episode to tune in for!

We also talk about the launch of Version 5 of in this episode as well so we will see you in the community soon I am sure!

We say Forget About Valentines Day!

Hallmark has you hooked don’t they??? The need to keep up with the guy in the cubicle across from you who makes sure the world knows how much money to spend to show his wife his “love”. Not that there’s anything wrong with that but we know your secret… Everyday is Valentine’s Day at your house. You don’t need flowers with a 900% price increase to show your partner how much you care. The last knowing look at the orgy you were at last weekend says it all and shows it more than you know.

In this episode we also dive into some of the pillars of success in the lifestyle, what an ITLRing can do for you and our excitement for the upcoming launch of Version 5 of ITL! (and we let a few secrets out about it too) We also just realized during the recording of this show that we are only a week away from our 9th anniversary online serving the lifestyle community. How crazy awesome is that!

Thanks as always for tuning in and listening! If you have comments or questions we are here to answer them!


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Words and knowing how to use them can and will get you laid.

It’s a fact.

Join us for Episode 50 (Yes this is number 50!!!) as we dive into a topic that we feel is one that will get you where you want in life and in the orgy rooms. Communication Strategies and knowing how to deploy them is such an important part of sexuality so you know this is going to be a juicy conversation!

We also streamed this recording live on Facebook and had a bunch of fun with those that joined us so be sure to watch for future ones as we get into the groove of sharing across multiple platforms 🙂

We love all the support and comments we get with each episode so please keep them coming! As always the best and fastest way to reach us is via Into The Lifestyle – we are there all day everyday (it seems like it anyway!)


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You want your fantasies fulfilled and we want to help!

Join us for episode 49 as we give you three tips to having your Fantasies Fulfilled

Did you know that simply by following these three steps you can not only move towards having your fantasies fulfilled you will also help your partner move towards theirs.

We also appreciate all the comments and love we are getting from the live Facebook feed of our shows; you are inspiring us to dig deeper into our show topics! If you want to catch our next live stream of our podcast follow us at:

Thank you for all your support – we respond to every comment or message so please reach out and let us know what you think! Or join in the ongoing conversation on Into The Lifestyle!


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Lifestyle Travel Random Ramblings

Alright we admit – we attempted to record this podcast AND Live Stream on Facebook and we were a wee bit distracted! Lots of viewers joined us as we recorded this episode though so we are going to figure out a better way of including live streaming more often… which means we will need to be sure to be presentable lol.

And Yes….. Saying Huatulco IS that fun – try it!

In this episode we talk about lifestyle travels and random ramblings, our upcoming ITL Takeover of Paradise Lifestyle Villas and lots of random (some wine induced) ramblings… you can thank Cindy for these!

As always keep the feedback coming! We are very active on the Into The Lifestyle community and also can be found on various social media platforms so reach out and say hi!


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